INFERTILITY & ENDOMETRIOSIS

Six years. That's how long it took for me to conceive my only child.

I don't like to talk about it, because I feel guilty. Yes, it took six years, but there are some in the Endometriosis community who still haven't conceived their own yet...and some of them never will.

Unfortunately, infertility is a sad reality for those with the disease. Indeed, Endometriosis impairs fertility in up to 40% of women with the disease. Thankfully, this devastating symptom is often treatable.

I am thankful every day the skilled hands of my surgeon, who treated my disease so successfully that I was able to get pregnant within "an unheard of" four weeks after my extensive excision surgery. Six months to the day after my son was born, I underwent a total hysterectomy and bilateral salpingoopherectomy to treat adenomyosis and multiple fibroids. Divine intervention notwithstanding, that pretty much rules out all chances of a sibling for my son. Still...I am one of the lucky ones.

Society does not seem to grasp the concept that some women either cannot - or choose not - to have more than one child, or any at all. I cannot count the number of times I have been at doctor offices, supermarkets, community events or just out with my son, and I am approached by strangers who think they have cornered the market on parenting.  "Ohhhhh, what a cute boy!" they say. I say "thank you" and try to move on, only to be stopped by such inquiries as, "is he your only one?" When I offer my standard response of, "yes, first and last!" they smile knowingly and nod their heads. "Sure, you say that NOW; wait and see!" In the beginning, I was polite and simply gritted my teeth and walked away. Now, it's gotten to the point where I can't help but respond to their condescension with, "NO, I KNOW HE'S MY ONLY ONE...I CAN'T HAVE ANY MORE!!" It turns into an embarrassing for everyone and I go home angry for the rest of the day.

We shouldn't have to explain ourselves to society at large, but there seems to be some sort of social stigma attached to those who do not have children in tow. For those of us whom Endometriosis-related infertility plays a role, here is some information I hope helps you - and those around you - understand a little better.

Endometriosis can cause infertility through several different methods of action:

Alternative Therapies include(8): If you are in the throes of Endometriosis-related infertility, do not despair. I was once where you are now, and I know what you are going through. The first step to take is to find a specialist to help you. Reproductive Endocrinologists trained in Endometriosis treatment are your best choice. Contact the Endometriosis Research Center for help in finding a doctor and support groups near you.

Other resources:

RESOLVE - Resolve is a wonderful non-profit organization with Infertility Fact Sheets and support groups all over the nation. Fact sheet topics include "getting started," "infertility myths and facts," "preserving your fertility," and other current issues affecting the infertility community.

Fertilethoughts - offers forums for different topics such as general infertility, donor egg/sperm issues, IVF and other high-tech treatments, male factor infertility, over 35, step-parents dealing with infertility.

Child of My Dreams - offers Infertility information, resources and support for people facing the challenges of infertility.

Infertility Nook - has collections of articles, FAQs, and links about infertility.

References:
(1), (2), (3), (4), (6), (7) Excerpted from "Miracle Babies and Other Happy Endings for Couples with Fertility Problems," Copyright © 1986 Mark Perloe M.D. and Linda Gail. Visit Dr. Perloe online at www.ivf.com
(5) Fertility and Sterility 2000;74:1-8.
(8) "Encyclopedia of Healing Therapies," Copyright © 1997 by Dr. David Peters and Anne Woodham

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